Thought Trap #3: Mental filter

Speak Schmeak

Thought Trap #3: Mental Filter You pick a single negative detail and obsess on it so that your vision of reality becomes blocked, like blinders on a horse. In situations with both positive and negative aspects, you dwell on the latter. Identify your negative emotions.

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Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

2011 221

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TGIF, Negativity, and Optimism

The Communication Blog

It could have been lots of things: a cliché response that one says on Friday rather mindlessly, an expression of relief that the work week is over, a negative evaluation of life at work, or perhaps a comment to assure me that he had a life beyond work. It conveys a negativity that is just not productive and not what employers are looking for. I didn’t care how much money they brought in because negativity kills optimism and belief in the future.”.

Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. It's easy to dwell on the one or two low scores or negative comments out of 100, so don't take it too personally, but look at the evaluation as an opportunity to tailor your presentation even more to what the audience is looking for. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

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5 ways to stop repeating the same mistakes

Speak Schmeak

But you also have to evaluate yourself honestly and find ways to build on the skills you already have and keep improving, or else you will stagnate. Use anonymous evaluations There are differing opinions on evaluations , and I've gone back and forth on the practice myself.

2009 158

Speaking Science: Why do I blush at the start of a speech?

The Eloquent Woman

All of these situations seem to trigger the body's "fight or flight" response that unleashes face-flushing adrenaline. Since the blush is an automatic response, one can only get rid of the blush altogether by modifying one's concerns about one's public self-image, or become less concerned with the impression one makes on others," says Peter J.

2017 55

Communication Strategies: Listening Choices

The Communication Blog

Listening involves receiving, understanding, remembering, evaluating, and responding to what a person means as well as what a person is feeling. Sometimes you have to put your empathic responses aside and listen with objectivity and detachment. Your attitudes may lead you to distort messages—to block out positive messages about a foe and negative messages about a friend. Effective listening includes both nonjudgmental and critical responses.

On the death of Margaret Thatcher: notes on the evolution of charismatic woman

Max Atkinson

The fact that the sound of a woman raising her voice is more likely to be negatively evaluated as ‘shrill'' or ''screeching'' is probably at the heart of a source of irritation that’s familiar to many professional women, namely the tendency of male colleagues to accuse them of ''overreacting'' whenever they become involved in arguments. So the fact that Mrs Thatcher took positive steps to lower the pitch of her voice was a perfectly rational response to a real problem.

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