Thought Trap #3: Mental filter

Speak Schmeak

Thought Trap #3: Mental Filter You pick a single negative detail and obsess on it so that your vision of reality becomes blocked, like blinders on a horse. In situations with both positive and negative aspects, you dwell on the latter. Identify your negative emotions.

2008 130

Are you misleading your audience with your titles?

Speak Schmeak

In that instance, I had a client who had gotten quite a few negative evaluations after her conference seminar. When I analyzed her evaluations, I noticed that many of the negative comments were from audience members who had come expecting a different seminar.

2012 133

TGIF, Negativity, and Optimism

The Communication Blog

It could have been lots of things: a cliché response that one says on Friday rather mindlessly, an expression of relief that the work week is over, a negative evaluation of life at work, or perhaps a comment to assure me that he had a life beyond work. It conveys a negativity that is just not productive and not what employers are looking for. I didn’t care how much money they brought in because negativity kills optimism and belief in the future.”.

Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

2011 140

Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

2011 130

Three bad handshakes to avoid

Speak Schmeak

We found that men had firmer handshakes than women did, on average, but we also found that women who had firm handshakes tended to be evaluated as positively as men are. Before I go reinventing the wheel, I'd like to point you to a blog post by Rowan Manahan about handshakes.

2010 133

Three bad handshakes to avoid

Speak Schmeak

We found that men had firmer handshakes than women did, on average, but we also found that women who had firm handshakes tended to be evaluated as positively as men are. Download audio here.

2010 130

5 ways to stop repeating the same mistakes

Speak Schmeak

But you also have to evaluate yourself honestly and find ways to build on the skills you already have and keep improving, or else you will stagnate. Use anonymous evaluations There are differing opinions on evaluations , and I've gone back and forth on the practice myself.

2009 130

Margaret Thatcher and the evolution of charismatic woman: Part I. Cultural and vocal challenges

Max Atkinson

Nor is it just a matter of there being negative associations with high pitched voices, as there are positive associations between lower-pitched female voices and attractiveness, 'huskiness' and 'sexiness'.

2009 69

Communication Strategies: Listening Choices

The Communication Blog

Listening involves receiving, understanding, remembering, evaluating, and responding to what a person means as well as what a person is feeling. Your attitudes may lead you to distort messages—to block out positive messages about a foe and negative messages about a friend. Only after you’ve fully understood the relevant messages should you evaluate or judge. Avoid both positive and negative evaluation until you have a reasonably complete understanding.

On the death of Margaret Thatcher: notes on the evolution of charismatic woman

Max Atkinson

Nor is it just a matter of there being negative associations with high pitched voices, as there are positive associations between lower-pitched female voices and attractiveness, ''huskiness'' and ''sexiness''.

2013 74