Thought Trap #3: Mental filter

Speak Schmeak

Thought Trap #3: Mental Filter You pick a single negative detail and obsess on it so that your vision of reality becomes blocked, like blinders on a horse. In situations with both positive and negative aspects, you dwell on the latter. You know it went well, the audience is responsive and has great things to say afterward, and you achieved what you were trying to achieve. But you get one negative evaluation, and that's all you think about.

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Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

They are comfortable in their routines, comfortable with the applause and the polite smiles, and comfortable in the knowledge that they're being asked to speak, even if they're not getting repeat engagements with the same organizations. Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

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Would people tell you if you sucked?

Speak Schmeak

They are comfortable in their routines, comfortable with the applause and the polite smiles, and comfortable in the knowledge that they're being asked to speak, even if they're not getting repeat engagements with the same organizations. Anonymous evaluations If you've never had your audience fill out evaluations, they're worth giving out now and then. Here's a compilation of responses from speakers about how they deal with a negative evaluation.

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5 ways to stop repeating the same mistakes

Speak Schmeak

But you also have to evaluate yourself honestly and find ways to build on the skills you already have and keep improving, or else you will stagnate. Use anonymous evaluations There are differing opinions on evaluations , and I've gone back and forth on the practice myself. Here's a great compilation of responses on SpeakerNet News on how to handle negative evaluations.)

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Communication Strategies: Listening Choices

The Communication Blog

Listening involves receiving, understanding, remembering, evaluating, and responding to what a person means as well as what a person is feeling. Although for most communication situations empathic listening is the preferred mode of responding, there are times when you need to engage in objective listening—to go beyond empathy and measure meanings and feelings against some objective reality. Engage in equal, two-way conversation.

On the death of Margaret Thatcher: notes on the evolution of charismatic woman

Max Atkinson

The fact that the sound of a woman raising her voice is more likely to be negatively evaluated as ‘shrill'' or ''screeching'' is probably at the heart of a source of irritation that’s familiar to many professional women, namely the tendency of male colleagues to accuse them of ''overreacting'' whenever they become involved in arguments. So the fact that Mrs Thatcher took positive steps to lower the pitch of her voice was a perfectly rational response to a real problem.

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