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How can I help?

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You don't need any advice from me on hand-washing or social distancing. I'm not going to share "how The LisaB Company is responding to COVID-19." Pretty sure you don't care. ?? I'm not a mental health expert, a scientist or a life coach, and I know you can find resources on how to cope elsewhere.

2020 130

Moving on to 2nd Round of the 250-word Microfiction Challenge!

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Like many people, I'm very happy in my comfort zone. I mean, it's comfy, right? That's why we stay there. At the same time, I know that if I don't force myself out of my comfort zone, I won't grow as a person or as a professional.

2019 189

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Empowering women means paying them

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After yet another request from a women's organization asking me to speak for free, I wrote this post on Facebook. I then posted it on Instagram and Twitter, and as an article on LinkedIn. My speaking colleagues are sharing it and getting lots of comments!

2020 130

Don't wait for someone else to speak up

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Once upon a time, I was getting on the freeway at an onramp near my home, and for the nth time, was nearly sideswiped by a car entering in the lane next to me. This onramp has two left turn lanes to enter the freeway, but once you begin the turn, the lane markings disappear.

2019 207

I dare you to be expressive

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One of my clients has been working her way through the upper levels of her organization with a culture-changing idea for her company. She flies jumbo jets, and her idea would impact all pilots in her airline, and ideally, pilots across all of aviation.

2019 206

Did you get your free gift?

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Hey peeps! I created a new free offering last year and I want to make sure you got yours! In case this fell through the cracks, here's the info on my new-ish Easy Speaker Proposal Template and tracking sheet !

2020 130

Do you need massive action or fine-tuning?

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One of my clients just emailed out his speaking schedule, inviting colleagues to attend. I was mistakenly added to the group—wrong Lisa! Here's what I saw: 29 speaking engagements. over 3 months. across five midwestern states (they drive to the majority of their engagements).

2019 158

Put this in your pocket for later

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Will you have a speaking engagement between now and April? Will you be: ??Speaking Speaking to the board of your organization? ??Introducing Introducing your business at a networking event? ??Sharing Sharing your big idea at a work meeting? ??Reaching Reaching out to the community for donations? ??Engaging

2019 141

I'm still in it - are you?

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It's two days after Christmas, and I'm working. Am I a workaholic? Am I under the thumb of a mean boss? Nope. (My My boss is pretty swell, actually.) Am I working by choice? Absolutely! Because my boss is ME, I get to decide when to work and when not to work.

2019 141

Your voice: small pebble. big ripples

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A few years ago, I was taking my usual shortcut through Earl Warren Showgrounds on my daily walk, when I was stopped by a family in an SUV. They had a couple of questions about the Fiesta rodeo, a longstanding Santa Barbara tradition that's part of our annual Old Spanish Days festivities.

2019 182

It's not fair

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Last week, as many of my speaker colleagues packed and prepared to attend our annual convention, I saw a repeated refrain in our comment threads, all a variation of: "I have to get a blow out, spray tan, hair colored and cut, teeth whitened, nails done, legs waxed, lashes extended, eyebrows dyed, shop for makeup and new outfits, find my Spanx, and find a gown to wear to the gala that I haven't worn before." While lamenting that our male colleagues don't have to do any of this to prepare for a conference. And more than once: "It's not fair." Is it really? Not fair? I'm not going to go into a huge gender socialization rant here or rail against a society that has such dramatically different expectations for women and men when it comes to appearance. Unfortunately, gender socialization frequently blinds us to the reality that we do, in fact, have a choice. This post is about choice. You have a choice. Sure, there are things in life that aren't fair, like genuine discrimination on the basis of gender, race, ability or sexual orientation. But nobody is forcing women to dress and groom ourselves the way we do. I'm not going to pretend I'm immune. I hate shaving my legs, and I actually stopped doing it about 30 years ago. But then I realized that sometimes I want to wear a skirt on stage, without tights or pantyhose. And I don't want my audience to be distracted if they notice my hairy legs. So a couple of years ago, I started getting my legs waxed. Once a year, in the summer, so if it's hot and I want to wear a skirt or dress without tights onstage, I can, and no one will be distracted. I hate that I have to care about this , or that someone will be so disturbed by the faint hair on my legs that they won't be able to listen to my content. But it's still my choice to wax my legs that one time a year. No one is forcing me to do it. I could wear tights. I could wear pants! You have a choice. Do you have to dye your hair? Nope. Do you have to whiten your teeth? Nope. Do you have to wear Spanx? Good lord, no you do not! Don't kid yourself that someone is "making" you do these things. The only thing that isn't fair is how you're treating yourself , like you're not a good enough female human unless you jump through all these hoops that prove you're what society considers appropriate and feminine. If you enjoy doing all of this stuff before a big conference or speaking engagement, then by all means do it! I'm not judging and nobody has a right to judge you. But if it annoys you. if you feel that "it's not fair". and if you wish you didn't have to do it. Guess what: You don't! There are women speakers who don't wear heels, or clingy dresses that require Spanx, who don't spend a fortune on hair, lash and nail maintenance, wear minimal makeup (depending on the stage, you probably need at least some to be seen) and who still get hired and, by the way, get paid a lot of money to do what they do. You are more than your appearance. Your message is what matters. Your personality, your authenticity, your connection with the audience. Your brilliance. No matter what anyone else says, you don't have to do anything you don't enjoy doing. What's not fair? You or anyone else making you feel that you're not good enough just as you are. P.S. Have you read my book, Presenting for Humans: Insights for Speakers on Ditching Perfection and Creating Connection? Just another little encouragement toward being real, embracing your uniqueness, and kicking butt on stage! Authenticity Confidence Mindset Pet Peeves Taking Risks

2019 176

BF + SBS + Cyber Monday + Free Gift = Today!

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I hope you're enjoying the long weekend (if you're in the US)! I realized that my friends in other countries now do Black Friday, even though there is no Thanksgiving on the preceding Thursday! Wow, talk about spreading American culture worldwide. Personally, I don't shop on Black Friday.

2019 141

Why can't every talk be a TED talk?

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TEDxUCLA TED talks are the "it-girl" of speaking. Everyone wants their presentation to be as cool as a TED talk, as profound as a TED talk, and as viral as a TED talk. I'm a huge fan of TED talks (and their locally-produced TEDx brethren).

2019 182

Four reasons to stop using PowerPoint

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Many of my speaker colleagues reject the use of slides. They say slides are boring, prevent engagement, and distract the audience away from the speaker's message. And yep, they do.

2018 207

Fear isn't the reason you avoid speaking.

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Not Alex Honnold. Raise your hand if you watched "Free Solo," the documentary about Alex Honnold's untethered climb of El Capitan's 900-meter vertical rock face at Yosemite National Park. Now raise your hand if you watched with one eye closed, hands in front of your face, hiding in a closet!

2019 141

I can't believe I've never taught this.

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this is weird. I just realized something yesterday when going through the surveys I've sent to my peeps about what kind of help they need with their public speaking. What do you think shows up higher on the list than building confidence, reducing anxiety and engaging the audience?

2019 141

Why your role model doesn't have all the answers

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"You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once.

2019 141

10 reasons to join the Presenting for Humans Success Circle

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Are you thinking about joining the Presenting for Humans Success Circle , but not sure if it's right for you? Perhaps I can help you decide with these points about the benefits of the program to you!

2018 205

Claim the Stage podcast interview with Angela Lussier

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Listen in on my conversation with Angela Lussier about ditching perfection and creating connection as a speaker! Authenticity Interviews Public Speaking Techniques and Strategies Quick Fixes

2019 141

You don't need a stage to need stage presence

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I was recently contacted by a woman who manages a small team of young, inexperienced salespeople. She was primarily concerned with their lack of self-awareness; their behaviors in front of clients and prospects were less-than-stellar. One person bites their nails in meetings.

Stage 213

She nailed it!

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I started working with a client last month who was tapped to give a presentation at a leadership conference within her industry. The audience was made up of younger versions of herself (don't you wish you could always speak to younger versions of yourself?),

2019 130

Is your life a constant audition?

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“I was so happy with how Freaks and Geeks came out, that in my head I thought 'my career is basically over.' I accomplished what I wanted to accomplish, and everything else is gravy. And so nothing else matters. I can experiment. I can do anything.

2018 180

Speaking tips from "Serial"

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I finally got around to finishing the original season of the podcast "Serial," in which the case of convicted murder Adnan Syed is re-evaluated in detail by investigative journalist Sarah Koenig. I had listened to the first four episodes on a road trip last year, but never picked it up again.

2019 141

Let go instead of holding on (to your content)

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"Perfection is finally attained, not when there is no longer anything to add, but when there is no longer anything to take away." ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, aircraft designer and author of The Little Prince I'm fortunate that, in most of my speaking, I'm not required to be particularly concise.

2018 181

I can do anything better than I can

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Maybe you've heard the song "Anything You Can Do" from the musical "Annie Get Your Gun." It's a classic duet with the characters Annie Oakley and Frank Butler attempting to prove their ability to outdo each other in a variety of tasks.

2018 184

Your lizard brain doesn't want you to speak

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My clients will frequently say to me, "I don't understand why I'm so nervous. There must be something wrong with me." Well, if it's wrong to be human, I guess we all have something wrong with us! What we forget is that, while we are indeed human, we are also animals. Human animals, but still animals.

2018 164

Learning is not a one-way street

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I frequently hear colleagues and friends complain about all the money they’ve spent on coaching or training with disappointing results. Literally never have I heard someone complain about all the work and effort they put into coaching or training, with disappointing results.

2019 141

Why you need to take every speaking opportunity

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I forgot my stuff. I had a workshop Friday morning, and I thought I was ready, but I wasn't. I had finished my slides, I had finished my notes, I had printed my handouts.

2017 196

My triple Axel moment

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If you don't watch figure skating (and even if you do), you may not understand the importance of the triple Axel in competition. First of all, it's the only forward-facing jump in the skaters' arsenal. All other jumps are executed while skating backward.

2018 163

Are you confident or complacent?

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We all strive to be confident speakers; it's a standard by which we judge our own levels of experience and practice. However, it's possible to be too confident, to become complacent over time about our own skills and abilities.

2018 141

Big fish or little fish. what's right for you?

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It's a new year, and with a new year comes lots of marketing hyperbole. Lots of "New year, new you!" and "Step into your greatness!" kinds of posts, articles and of course, paid programs. Every January, I feel the pressure. Do you feel the pressure?

2017 205

Two-time Academy Award winner needs an acting coach?

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Billboard Daily Blog Are you a fan of "Grace and Frankie," the hot Netflix series starring Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin? My husband and I arrived late to the party, but are now all caught up and attempting to savor season 3 instead of bingeing, like some of my friends have done.

2017 198

You have a platform, but are you making it count?

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Whenever a celebrity—whether actor, singer, athlete or other entertainer—takes the opportunity at an awards ceremony or other public event to speak out about a political issue, certain segments of the public immediately begin scolding and lashing out. It's inappropriate!" they say.

2017 204

How is dating like public speaking?

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Have you ever been on a date? Did you enjoy it? Did you hate it? You've probably had both experiences! Did you ask the other person out? Did they ask you out? Maybe you've just kind of eased into it by saying "We should do something sometime." (I

2015 258

Lessons from driving: Don't be a mechanical speaker

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(c) Jenny Rollo Do you remember what it was like when you were learning how to drive? There were so many things to pay attention to, so many details. Where do I put my hands and my feet? When is it too soon or too late to press the brake pedal? How much pressure do I put on the gas?

2015 251

Your voice matters

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You're probably hearing a lot right now about using your voice. With elections coming up, it's important to be reminded that our voices—via our votes—really do make a difference. I know. sometimes it doesn't feel that way. Sometimes we feel small, we feel powerless, and we feel disheartened.

2018 141

Storytelling in 30 seconds - can you do it?

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It's been a while since I posted about a TV commercial (ah, the beauty of the DVR), but here's one I came across recently that perfectly demonstrates the concepts of concise, compelling and clear storytelling.

2015 244

It's my tenth blogiversary!

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Ten years ago this week, I started blogging. My first post was published on October 9, 2006. Since that time, I've published 1,475 posts, I've saved 86 drafts that are still waiting to be finished and published, and I'm turning about 60 of them into a book to be published by the end of this year.

2016 206

I want to see the speaker, not the coaching

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I recently attended an event with a long lineup of speakers. I'm like a kid in a candy store at events with lots of speakers!

2016 207

10 reasons to join the Presenting for Humans Success Circle

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Are you thinking about joining the Presenting for Humans Success Circle , but not sure if it's right for you? Perhaps I can help you decide with these ten reasons I think the program is worth joining!

2017 176

Presenting for Humans: Insights for Speakers on Ditching Perfection and Creating Connection

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It's coming, it's coming! I'm expecting my book, Presenting For Humans: Insights for Speakers on Ditching Perfection and Creating Connection , to be available on Amazon by the end of March, and hopefully to have some hard copies in hand to sign for my VIP supporters!

2017 189

My 2015 holiday speaker gift list is here!

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It''s the most wonderful time of the year! And it''s also the time of the year, when I update my annual list of speaker gifts, to help you find the best gifts for the speaker in your life -- who might just be you!

2015 259

DIY speaker gift: Speaker Survival Kit!

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Last March, I had a booth at a local women''s business festival. I wanted to give something away in a drawing that would be useful to those who stopped by, and specifically useful to speakers.

2014 257